Love Never Fails

You are doing it right. You always show to everyone that you are fighting hard after breaking down a million times, as if nothing's wrong, as if you do not need anyone's help. You are fighting hard to be the person everyone wants and expects you to be, and it is okay with you, they have never heard you complain. You're a woman with a big and beautiful heart. You are fighting battles you can't even discuss with anyone because you do not want to be a burden. You try to be strong and help everyone when you, yourself, is helpless, you give encouragement to those who need it when you, yourself, need it the most. You always put other people first and they don't even notice it. You have told yourself that you have no right to rest and that you have to always fight for those you love, at all cost. Brave heart, I want you to know that God is seeing the narrative of your life. He sees every tears you wipe before you step out of your room and smile like you weren't cry...

Rather than focusing on the faults of your spouse, focus on what he or she does well. Let your words reflect an awareness of their strengths, gifts and contributions to your relationship and home. You’ll be amazed at how your spouse will seek to do even more positive things in your presence when you point out the good, and not the bad. Affirmation goes a long way toward creating an atmosphere of acceptance and mutual affection. And if giving the benefit of the doubt isn’t the way you naturally roll, you may want to consider how many faults you’ve brought to the table as well. Showing grace to each other in your marriage relationship rests on the foundational truth that marriage is comprised of two imperfect people seeking to live in harmony and grace. Faults abound, yes. In everyone. But they do not need to dominate your thoughts, conversations or influence your actions. If the fault is at a level that needs to be addressed for the sake of the relationship, address it. But express yo...

Creating Trust in Your Friendships Trust in a relationship is what makes the difference between an acquaintance and a friend. You  talk  to acquaintances, but you  trust  your friends.  You need at least one person in your life that can be a  safe person  for you, where you say, “I can share anything with that person. He’s not going to look at me crossways. She’s not going to reject me. He’s not going to dump me. She’s going to be there for me.” You need a safe person that you can share everything with—your fears, your doubts, and your insecurities.  It’s essential that what is said between you and that person remains confidential. And for you to be a safe person for someone else, you have to commit to confidentiality, too. The Bible says that you build trust in a friendship by keeping confidences:  “No one who gossips can be trusted with a secret, but you can put confidence in someone who is trustworthy”  (Proverbs 11:13 GNT). ...

One of the marks of awesome relationships is that you help each other grow. There are two methods that help people grow and two that don’t.  Here’s how you help each other: Grow through example.  Jesus did this in teaching his disciples. John 13:14-15 says,  “Since I . . . have washed your feet, you ought to wash each other’s feet. I have given you an example to follow. Do as I have done to you”  (NLT). People don’t want to hear a sermon. They want to see an example of Jesus in your life. Grow through conversations.  In order to grow in relationships, you should have critical conversations about real issues. Dedicate time to having conversations around the things that really matter in life.  Two ways that  don’t  help people:  Criticism won’t help someone grow.  Nagging doesn’t work. Condemning doesn’t work. Criticizing and complaining are totally ineffective in helping a person grow. Why? Because when you criticize, you’re ...

If you want to have healthy relationships, then start with an attitude of gratitude. You will be far happier and enjoy your relationships more if you develop the habit of being grateful for the people in your life.  Paul says in Philippians 1:3,  “Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God”  (NLT). This simple truth is the foundation of good relationships.  When you think of the people in your life, is your first feeling gratitude? Or is it, “What do they need to do for me? What problems do we need to resolve? What do we need to get done?” Paul showed us a different way. His first thought for his friends was one of gratitude, and it is the model to follow if we want relationships that last. Here’s the challenge: The longer you know someone, the more likely you take that person for granted. The longer you know someone, the easier it is to focus on that person’s faults and the bad times instead of the happy times.  That’s why it takes effort...

Marriage is indeed hard. Just like anything worthwhile in life. This year we have seen each other's flaws and imperfections more even for being together for almost 11 years,  We disagree often, we fight sometimes, but whats unique about us is we always do silent war 😂😂😂. We are both very stubborn and dislike admitting when we are wrong. Our marriage is not at all perfect; far from it. I can confidently say that I am more in love with Rae today than I was one year ago when we first said, "I do." It's so true! I am so, so in love with my husband. I LOVE being married to my best friend and now my biggest supporter. Now that we have one year of marriage under our belts, I can very much admit that I am looking forward to the coming years together even more with our children of course. Although our marriage is far from perfect, but it is worth it. We talk about our goals for the coming years together. I am so excited to consider this first year as our baseline, as w...